The word "shiva" means seven in Hebrew. It refers to the seven day period of mourning that traditionally takes place after a Jew dies. Sitting shiva, as it is referred to, is one of the ancient Jewish customs that is not always followed today.

Members of the bereaved family are required to suspend their worldly pursuits in order to contemplate and remember the deceased. The tradition has a twofold purpose; it constitutes honor for the dead, and a period during which the bereaved can give vent to their feelings within the confines of their home. The process of grieving has been declared by professionals as a very necessary part of coming to terms with the death of a loved one. All too often, this is not sufficiently allowed for in modern society.

The Period of Shiva

A special meal called a seudat havra'ah begins the period of shiva. This is literally the "consolation meal." During shiva all meals will be provided for the mourners by friends and relatives as part of their demonstration of love and support. This means that giving kosher shiva gifts is a perfect way to express your sympathy for the Jewish bereaved.

At the end of the period of shiva, the mourners will leave the house and take a short walk within the vicinity of their home, usually around the block. This signifies the official return to normal life. It is also supposed to signify the act of "accompanying the departing soul."