Relationships

    Love And Dating

    For some people, dating is a lot of fun and there seems to be no reason to settle down and get married when there are still a plethora of attractive prospects with whom to enjoy casual interactions. For others, dating is an excruciating trial that is to be endured only because the desire to find love is great enough to sustain them through awkwardness, tedium, or repeated false starts. Both groups have carved out quite a niche on the Internet, where they enjoy using personals to find others who are on the same wavelength.

    It is to the latter group, however, that this information is addressed. The others seem always to be able to find no shortage of partners, with or without the Web; the shy individuals, the people who are thoughtful and serious, or who believe that there's only one person out there with whom they will ever find love--they often find that internet dating is the best route to the love they want. Don't listen to anyone who tells you that the Internet keeps you from living a real life. The Internet is inanimate and has no intentions--it is simply a tool with which you can express yourself and connect. It is a part of the real world, and it can form a bridge between your internal world and the external world if that's how you use it.

    Pursue the Love You Want on Your Own Terms

    Similarly, don't listen to the people who say you shouldn't be too serious in your profile if you don't want to scare off prospective partners. The right person for you will read what you have written and understand your intentions. If you don't want to date a lot of people or have casual sex, or if you only want to meet someone offline if you strongly believe that you could have enduring trust and love, then say so. There are others who feel the same way.

    Some people with good intentions will argue that there is an X factor in relationships and that you simply can't know whether you could love someone until you are in that person's presence--until you can hold hands, look each other in the eye, and see if you feel the spark, the pull, the attraction, or whatever the X factor is. Even that can be different for everyone, though. All you can do, if you want to find true love with the help of the Internet, is be honest about where you are now and what you want. That may well change when you've embarked on a relationship with someone you meet; but if you want the journey to begin at all, it has to begin where you are.