Sex And Dating

Written by Serena Berger
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There are some rules of thumb or conventions about sex and dating that you should be aware of. This is not because you should follow them, but because you need to know that you may encounter people who are operating under certain assumptions. You'll encounter these people anywhere you go where there is a focus on singles meeting for dating and sex, and the Internet is no exception.

In fact, the Internet has its own set of issues around which "guidelines" and "conventions" have arisen, for better or for worse. For example, you'll probably encounter people who expect that after three emails you should exchange phone numbers, or that after some number of emails and phone calls, you should meet in person. These conventions are artificially constructed, and anyone who adheres to them dogmatically is probably not a great choice for a match.

Make Sure You're on the Same Page about Sex and Dating

If you read a magazine or relationship book that focuses on sexual patterns or behaviors, you'll often encounter the so-called Three Date Rule. This piece of wisdom encourages you to wait three dates before having sex, the result of which is that some people think that after three dates they should have sex. There are a lot of people using the Internet for sex and dating who will have this figure in their minds, and if you feel strongly about waiting longer, it tends to be wise to bring this up sooner rather than later.

While there are many people out there who are hoping to have sex that soon, there are also many who want to wait longer, or who eschew guidelines and conventions altogether and do whatever they want in any given situation. Some people make things easier by being upfront about what they want, so you can find someone who is interested in having sex soon, or someone who believes in waiting until a relationship has grown serious. Not everyone mentions anything about sex in his or her profile, however, so if you want to make sure that someone is willing to have sex soon or wants to wait quite a while, it never hurts to ask.

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