Finding A Lost Friend

Written by Dina Kayed
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Most of us, when we set out to find a lost friend, are looking for someone we haven't seen since we were in our teens or twenties. Occasionally, though, we'll be looking for someone we were at school with. There is a big emotional draw that keeps people going back in time to when they were young and having a lot of fun. Sometimes the responsibilities of adulthood make those times seem all the more enticing.

When we set about finding a lost friend, we imagine that we're going to be able to pick up right where we left off. It doesn't even occur to us to consider whether that friend feels the same way. After all, why would they not want to see us?

Be Prepared

Life doesn't treat us all the same, though. What was a good time for you may not have been such a good time for your friend. That's not to say that they didn't value the friendship just as much as you did, but that they may have had other things going on at that time that they'd rather not be reminded of. Perhaps they're happy to leave the past the past, and not make any nostalgic trips down memory lane.

So, while it's great to try and get back in contact with friends from our past, we should prepare ourselves emotionally for the possibility that they won't be so overjoyed to hear from us. Accepting that and moving on, if they make it clear that they don't want to resume the friendship, is something we have to accept. Then, if it turns out that they're just as thrilled to hear from us, we'll be doubly happy.


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